Prior musings have outlined a method of optimizing physical, mental and spiritual health by focusing on self-care and embracing the mindful attitudes of non-judgmental acceptance, patience, curiosity, trust, non-striving,letting go and kindness.
This musing will focus on an important challenge: working with our habits.
Most of us develop numerous habits over the years. Many are helpful for health and efficiency in navigating our complicated society. Examples could include: keeping and checking a calendar, having an exercise routine, daily meditation practice, putting your keys and wallet in the same place, regular communication with family and friends, helping others, improving our environment, etc. Other habits are less helpful: procrastination, addictive behaviours, overspending, excessive screen time (computer, smartphone, etc).
Mindful practice helps us get out of habitual “autopilot” and more in the present moment, where we can clearly and honestly witness and discern our habits. Each moment is an opportunity to gently ask ourselves if we are fully present. When present, we can be alert to our habits, impulses and compulsions.
We can ask ourselves if we really need that third beer or second helping of desert. Do we need to press that PayPal button for a trinket or can we donate to a worthy cause (or stick to our budget!) ? Can we stop watching cat videos and get outside or help a neighbour? Can we trade Facebook and Twitter for creative writing,music, art or dance?
Most impulses last 70 seconds or less. A short meditation period can allow unhealthy impulses to pass. It is important to remain gentle and patient with ourselves. Nobody is perfect. We can gradually sculpt ourselves moment by moment through awareness and commitment. No need to harshly “break” unhealthy habits, they simply need to be gently “released”.
MINDFUL EXERCISE:
Keep a journal or log of your daily activities paying particular attention to your habits both helpful and unhelpful. Bring gentle awareness to your habits as part of your meditation practice. Congratulate yourself when you improve your habits and forgive yourself if you temporarily resume an unhealthy one. Commit to a gradual overall improvement and appreciate the benefits.
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