Prior musings have outlined a method of optimizing physical, mental and spiritual health by focusing on self-care and embracing the mindful attitudes of non-judgmental acceptance, patience, curiosity, trust, non-striving and letting go.
The end-of-year holiday season can be a restorative source of delight , a respite from our usual work busyness and an opportunity to reconnect with relatives and friends. More often that not, it can also be extremely stressful! This musing offers some mindful suggestions to help you navigate the season more effectively.
It is common to have an over abundance of (seemingly) obligatory social engagements through work, friends and family. Mindful planning, with an emphasis on self-care, can reduce holiday burnout. Taking stock of your energy level, health and total amount of current stress will help you prioritize. “No” can be a complete sentence when declining a well-intentioned invitation. “FOMO” (fear of missing out) can be turned into “JOMO” (the joy of missing out). Fewer, high quality events are preferable to more numerous but stressful gatherings. At the opposite end of the spectrum, some people need to manage loneliness or a lack of social invitations with skillful handling of emotions and creative solutions to have a meaningful and connected holiday season.
An additional source of stress can be from comparing the present season with those from years past. It is common to get triggered when reminded of idealized childhood experiences, those no longer with us or the challenges of past relationships.Blended families can cause a stressful tug-of-war for our time and commitment. The mindful attitudes of non-judgmental acceptance, letting go, and beginner’s mind (curiosity) can help with skillful navigation and full presence for this holiday season.
Overindulgence is all too common. Pausing for a few deep breaths before that extra dose of alcohol or gorging on holiday foods can reduce post-holiday regret. Continuing meditation practice, exercise and other healthy pursuits may help you navigate the season with true joy and health. You may not even need any New Year’s resolutions if you take mindful care of yourself at this season and throughout the year!
Remember that the holiday season is, at its core, about kind connection and sharing. Wishing you and yours a very mindful holiday season.
Mindful homework:
Make a commitment to self awareness and self care this holiday season. Pause frequently to help with pacing yourself in regards to social commitments and indulgence levels. Journalling your experiences may help you stay on track.