SELF-COMPASSION BREAK
When you notice that you’re feeling stress or emotional discomfort, see if you can find the discomfort in your body. Where do you feel it the most? Make contact with the sensations as they arise in your body.
Now, slowly say to yourself:
1. This is a moment of suffering
That’s mindfulness. Other options include:
- This hurts.
- This is tough.
- Ouch!
2. Suffering is a part of living
That’s common humanity. Other options include:
- Other people feel this way.
- I’m not alone.
- We all struggle in our lives.
Now, put your hands over your heart, or wherever it feels soothing, feeling the warmth and gentle touch of your hands.
Say to yourself:
3. May I be kind to myself
See if you can find words for what you need in times like this. Other options might include:
- May I accept myself as I am.
- May I give myself the compassion that I need.
- May I learn to accept myself as I am.
- May I forgive myself.
- May I be strong.
- May I be safe.
(pause)
If you’re having trouble finding the right words, imagine that a dear friend or loved one had a similar difficulty as you. What would you say to this person?
Now see if you can offer the same words, the same message, to yourself.